“My best friend of 8 years has been in a relationship I'm worried about. The dynamic seems unhealthy — they cancel plans last minute, they've stopped talking about their own dreams, and I've seen them cry after phone calls they say were "fine."

Every time I try to gently raise my concern, they shut down. Last time I said something, they told me I was "being dramatic" and didn't speak to me for two weeks. But then they came back like nothing happened.

I love this person deeply and I'm terrified of losing them as a friend. But I'm also terrified of watching them disappear into something that's making them smaller. How do you hold space for someone who isn't ready to see what you can see? And when does caring cross into overstepping?”